You talking to me?

Craig and I started listening to a relationship series from a church in Charlotte, NC last week. I love love love when we do the Jesus studying stuff together. The point that really spoke to me was when the pastor said when talking to your husband "you can either speak to the prince or the punk".  How we as wives speak to our husbands makes a huge impact on how they are going to respond to us. Say for example Craig left his shoes and socks (that leave little black fuzzies all over the carpet) in the den instead of taking the shoes to the closet and putting the socks in the dirty clothes hamper. Would you believe me if I told you this was totally hypothetical? I wouldn't if I were you. I could approach Craig with this two ways. I could lay into him telling him that he is a no good forgetful so-and-so who never does anything right (I know your saying that's harsh Marsh), or I could go to him and tell him how much I love and appreciate him for all he does and then ask him to make a concerted effort to pick up his shoes and socks after he takes them off. I am thinking that he would respond better to the latter of the two ways. I actually know he would respond better to the second way, because believe me I have said some things that sound just a smidge like the first way and it didn't work out to good for either of us. I want to speak to my prince not my punk. The Bible says in Proverbs 16:24: "Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones." So go get your buzz on and talk sweet to yo' man (or girl, depending on your situation).